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Inspiring Artistic Rebirth

Better: Everyday in Tiny Yet Impactful Ways

July 23, 2020 by jjscreativelifemidwife

person walking barefoot on the sand, self care improving the world one step at a time.

“I see the world being slowly transformed into a wilderness; I hear the approaching thunder that, one day, will destroy us too. I feel the suffering of millions. And yet, when I look up at the sky, I somehow feel that everything will change for the better, that this cruelty too shall end, that peace and tranquility will return once more.”

Anne Frank

A long time ago I wrote an article with the premise being “Self-care is the least selfish act you may choose to take because when you take excellent care of yourself, you will contribute so much better to the lives of others.”

I look at this Anne Frank quote: herself only a teen and caught in the middle of horrific circumstances and somehow, she got it. Somehow she got it and her words were found and have been shared with the world for generations.

With our current pandemic and our cultural climate of dissension in this world of “us and them” we can be blinded by the reality we are in this together.

Americans, who are used to being able to leave our country on a whim, can’t anymore. We complain, when Anne Frank was cramped in an attic with her family, another family and a single man.

How did Anne quiet the sounds of thunder, getting closer and closer and ultimately leading to her death?

She wrote in her diary to feel better and to figure out what her experiences meant for her. She expressed her hope to no one except the pages of her book – her one friend, never imagining the impact her words would have.

Anne Frank quote on wilderness and optimism, despite what she experiences.

What one small self-care step are you willing to take to improve your life?

How might this improvement to your life turn into a positive contribution for the rest of the world?

Julie JordanScott sits among lupine wildflowers. As the Creative Life Midwife, she also loves nature!
Julie JordanScott is the Creative Life Coach who loves challenging herself and those she works with to continually seek new methods of inspiration, to allow oneself to be delighted and surprised and to wake up, nurture, encourage and grow your inner artist, genius, explorer and best self daily.

Julie JordanScott, the Creative Life Midwife, is a writer, a poet performer, a Creativity Coach, A Social Media Whiz and a Mother of three. One of her greatest joys include loving people into their greatness they just aren’t quite able to realize yet. 

Julie is also one of the Founders of Bridge to the New Year. Join us now in mid-2020 in #Refresh2020 to reflect, connect, intend and taking passionate action to create a truly remarkable rest of 2020. 

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Refresh Your Beliefs: the 2020 Version

July 22, 2020 by jjscreativelifemidwife

A teal tabletop flatlay with a coffee cup, paperclips and pencils. A new Way to Work with Beliefs While Living Your 2020 Pandemic Life

One of the most helpful writing prompts I have used with my students, coaching clients and with myself is “I believe.”

Lately as we have become more fractured and unfortunately too often stuck in the underlying fog of “us versus them” and “If you are one of them” (someone not like me) than I can’t talk (work, play. Collaborate, talk) with you. 

This is why in the pop up #refresh2020 group that when I asked people about what they believe I qualified it like this:

Before you hit reply and respond with a lot of what you have said before please spend a few moments (or longer, perhaps write in your journal or go for a walk or listen to music or watch a TV show you love or have a conversation with this question hovering n the background of your mind.)

What do you believe – about what has been going on in your life right now?

What do you believe when you see situations that upset you, that you can’t control or influence?

  • What do you believe when you have been at the top of your game and the world and the people you love are praising you for no other reason than you showed up in the same space they are in?
  • What do you believe when you are lying under a canopy of stars or you were just in a car accident or are sitting in a hospital or close to death or just witnessed the birth of a child?
  • What do you believe when you can’t live like you always have before?
  • What do you believe when you are sitting in the rubble or are face to face with your greatest fear?

Finally, add any scenarios that will help you to move beyond what you might have written or thought before… allow it to simmer… and when you come back to the questioning space here – share examples from your direct experience about what it is that brings you to that belief.

Feeling back into what we believe is crucial to creating and living out our vision as we finish out this rocky, tumultuous, unexpected, confusing, beautiful, unwanted year of 2020.

Whenever I am invited to share my beliefs, a song by Blessid Union of Souls starts playing in my mind. Today, I would like to share a bit of that song with you. If you would like, watch the video.

Here is a change I made in my beliefs in 2020, a modification that is in alignment for my long standing belief that love is the answer, the quetion and the action plan.

Today I am thinking and feeling I believe in haiku. I believe in the power of daily creative practice and sharing that practice with a receptive audience. This makes me laugh – but my daily haiku practice….has shifted so much for me… and it was started BECAUSE…

(lyrics from the Blessid Union of Souls single “I Believe…”

Open up your mind and then open up your heart

You will see that you and me aren’t very far apart

Cause I believe love is the answer

I believe love will find a way

Before you leave this blog, I would enjoy hearing your first thoughts – not your final thoughts on this way of looking at what you believe in general, but choose one of the scenarios and make up a first draft response. Clarity, feeling better and healing are right at the end of your keyboard.

Julie JordanScott typing a love poem on the edge of a foothill of the Sierra Nevada Mountains.
Julie JordanScott typing a love poem on the edge of a foothill of the Sierra Nevada Mountains.

Julie JordanScott, the Creative Life Midwife, is a writer, a poet performer, a Creativity Coach, A Social Media Whiz and a Mother of three. One of her greatest joys include loving people into their greatness they just aren’t quite able to realize yet. 

Julie is also one of the Founders of Bridge to the New Year. Join us now in 2020 in #Refresh2020 to reflect, connect, intend and taking passionate action to create a truly remarkable rest of 2020. Click the graphic below to join the Private Facebook Group to join the conversation!

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Saturday, In the Park: Better than the 4th of July

July 18, 2020 by jjscreativelifemidwife

For writers there is no.... and a writer is using a purple pen on her open notebook to capture thoughts as she waits for a friend to call and go on a walk with her.

This week my friend Kelly and I started walking together even though we live hundreds of miles apart. She calls me and off we go, walking. This morning I felt even more ambitious than usual. I was in a new space for my haiku sunrise photo, so I started the day with an early walking start. The moonblossoms that called out to be photographed in the sunrise were in the distance.

When you are a writer, writing prompts appear out of your free flow writing.

I thought briefly I might call Kelly and say “Never mind, I walked today!” Then I thought, “I’ll go to that other park down the street and write while I am waiting for Kelly’s call.”

Mornings are literally the only cool-ish time in Bakersfield in the Summer. I enjoyed the mid-seventies sunshine and scribbled in my notebook. I was having so much fun in this “waiting” time so I wrote, “When you are a writer there is no….” and I thought “what a great writing prompt!” but my purple pen did not want to stop so I wrote “there is no waiting time. There is observing, listening, sniffing, reflection and awareness. There are toe dips into patience and scratching against buried treasure of thoughts. There is the occasional deep sinking dive bomb of awareness, there are tiny yellow flowers others don’t see. There are animals who get used to you and your stillness so they get closer and funnier so much so you almost hope whatever it is you are waiting for won’t show up after all.

When you are a writer, there is no waiting time: instead quiet moment in between are for discovery.

The phone rang and it was Kelly. Time for my second walk of the day. I included stairs and hills and wider smiles along with the huffing and puffing.

Another rich, rewarding start to my day!

How has your day been so far?

Are you ready to write from the prompt, “For writers there is no….”

Julie JordanScott typing a love poem on the edge of a foothill of the Sierra Nevada Mountains.
Julie JordanScott typing a love poem on the edge of a foothill of the Sierra Nevada Mountains.

Julie JordanScott, the Creative Life Midwife, is a writer, a poet performer, a Creativity Coach, A Social Media Whiz and a Mother of three. One of her greatest joys include loving people into their greatness they just aren’t quite able to realize yet. 

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Let’s Explore Trust: How to Grow in Trust Every Day

July 17, 2020 by jjscreativelifemidwife

A sunrise photo with flowers and the title "Growing in Trust, one day at a time."

“Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

I don’t know how to start talking about trust. How can I talk about something I know so little about, if I am completely honest?

At the root or core of my life experience, no single person has been 100% trustworthy. I have not been able to trust myself. While I trust God in the long run, it seems unreasonable to trust God in some of this day-to-day when so many horrific things take place day after-day-after-day. (please note, this is not written to be a theological discussion and in fact, this is an exercise in vulnerability which I believe God appreciates.)

Perhaps this is why I have been so focused on writing haiku for the last two hundred plus days. I can trust one simple action – and now, since July 2, I have been “writing sunrise haiku” because I trust the sun to rise, each and every day.

I can trust that.

I can look up the time of day it will move above the horizon and every day – whether the clouds cover it or it is clear as a whistle, the light comes.

This I trust.

Light through a  tree at sunrise with the Maya Angelou quote, "Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time."

I have trusted myself to scribble seventeen syllables each morning as well: not because my boss told me if I didn’t I would be in trouble. I wrote haiku because I thought it would be fun, not because a doctor told me to do so. I contemplated at least one present moment every day because I knew it was good for my spirit and maybe even for the spirit of others – not because of any oath or promise or contract other than the one I made with myself.

For the last 206 days I have proven to myself in this one instance I am trustworthy.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe reminded me this morning, “As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.”

This morning I shared my sunrise photo and haiku on my facebook page in the same way I have been doing for all these days. Within the first moments, people were enjoying it – and receiving peace simply by looking at the photo and reading the words.

I am slowly gaining trust in myself again and my actions are in alignment with this trust.

When we are open to explore and be authentic with our responses to questions such as these, we will grow in ways unmeasurable. Yes, we will truly know what it is to live.

Note: This essay began as a free-flow writing exercise and as a result has had minimal editing. Sometimes trusting the raw word-flow is what is most important.

Woman writing on the front porch of a brick home,
Write wherever you find yourself.

Julie JordanScott, the Creative Life Midwife, is a writer, a poet performer, a Creativity Coach, A Social Media Whiz and a Mother of three. One of her greatest joys include loving people into their greatness they just aren’t quite able to realize yet. 

Julie is also one of the Founders of Bridge to the New Year. Join us now in 2020 in #Refresh2020 to reflect, connect, intend and taking passionate action to create a truly remarkable rest of 2020. Click the graphic below to join the Private Facebook Group to join the conversation!

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3 Simple Methods to Feeling More Grounded, Instantly

July 14, 2020 by jjscreativelifemidwife

Two days ago I was being challenged to focus completely. As always, I had a stack of tasks I could be doing but instead, I would invest a minute or two here or there, I was tumbling into rabbit holes stoked by my natural propensity for curiosity. The noise of my household was choking any last possibility for me to move forward in the way I felt would be most productive.

When I was in that space, I could not even begin to think of ways to find my way back to feeling grounded, which may also be seen as feeling stable or steady or strong or present.  Even as I write this a couple days later I am aware I could once again move off course if I do not practice what I am suggesting to you.

Let’s take a deep breath and stay exactly where we are, only better.

  1. First, feel your feet, planted, on the floor of the room you are in or on the grand where you are standing. Take a moment to feel how it feels to connect, like how the roots of a tree connect with the soil where it is planted. Take a deep breath. If you notice now you are thirsty, walk with your rooted feet to a source of water. Your posture, your movement in this style is deeply intentional. You may even notice your gait and posture changes. This is good.
  1. Use the word “grounded” as a mantra. If “grounded” isn’t a favorite any of these words may be used as a synonymous substitute:

Stable Strong Dependable Solid Whole

Steady Rooted Sure-footed Balanced Present

You may feel even more supported by adding the word “I am” with grounded. It would sounds like this (I am substituting the synonymous words as well.

I am steady. I am grounded. I am whole. I am present. I am rooted.

  1. If you are able, go outside and stand outside. You may also go outside, barefoot and stand still for a moment or two. Take at least three deep breaths and yes, simply stand there. Enjoy the connection to the soil or the grass or if indoors, the carpeting of the room you are in. 

These are simple, less than five minute exercises which will help you feel better while they redirect you back to your “previously scheduled” activities. No training classes necessary. No new products need to be bought. You don’t need a special space to become more grounded. Even with all of this zero investment, the rewards you may reap include better focus, a clearer mind, and an increased level of contentment amidst the challenges we are, each and all of us, facing.

Paradise in Las Vegas in nature

Julie JordanScott, the Creative Life Midwife, is a writer, a poet performer, a Creativity Coach, A Social Media Whiz and a Mother of three. One of her greatest joys include loving people into their greatness they just aren’t quite able to realize yet. 

Julie is also one of the Founders of Bridge to the New Year. Join us now in 2020 in #Refresh2020 to reflect, connect, intend and taking passionate action to create a truly remarkable rest of 2020. Click the graphic below to join the Private Facebook Group to join the conversation!

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Top 10 Self-Care Resources in the Times of Covid19

July 12, 2020 by jjscreativelifemidwife

A cherry blossom adorns the announcement of an important essay: Top 10 Self Care Resources to help you during Pandemic Times.

Many of us are equally frustrated with hearing terms like “these uncertain times” and also realize – these are not the days of standard operating procedures for most of us.

Self-Care and Personal Wellness are more important now than ever before. Please take a moment to peruse these link. Bookmark this page return when you or someone else you love may find them beneficial. 

  1. CDC Guidance for Stress during the time of Covid19. Includes a lot of links to a lot of places one may get help. Good for reference if not for you, for others.

2. Mental health suggestions from the Mayo Clinic:

3. Brene Brown on Mental Wellness During Covid !9

4. Mental Health – advice from a Psychiatrist on a 60 Minutes Ask Me Anything Episode

5. Especially for Parents:

https://childmind.org/article/self-care-in-the-time-of-coronavirus/

6. Podcasts you may enjoy:

14 Podcasts for Social Distancing from Home Cooking to Homeschooling

Note: there is a podcast meant for upper elementary kids I want to start listening to PLUS a podcast hosted by the writer and co-star of the movie “The Big Sick.”

Writing/Creativity Podcasts:

Rachel Zucker’s independent Commonplace Podcast: In their global role call series they speak with previous guests and listeners to see how people were faring. I appreciated hearing there were others who were struggling to write… and moods were all over the place. The back episodes are great, too.

Tin House Live: Between the Lines

7. Meditations:

The Loving Kindness Meditation: 

A video will guide you through the Loving Kindness Meditation:

Tonglen Meditation:

Pema Chodron opens with “This is how to do Tonglen for a world that is falling apart.”


This is a 4 minute YouTube Video:

Yoga Nidra Meditation:

What I love about Yoga Nidra is the intention setting and the deep relaxation. Some of the videos I found were very legalistic, others less so. You may search on YouTube to find one that suits you. I also listed one for reference.

This first link shares information about the practice itself.

Information about Cord Cutting Meditation (for letting go, especially at sleep)

YouTube Video:

8 Beginning Yoga

This link includes videos for people just starting out with Yoga.

9 Places to Learn online for Free:

Coursera: I took two courses here. Both were good!

Khan Academy: I attempted to take an algebra course here. It was hard. I might get the courage to try again. I really would love to fall in love with math!

10. Anti-Racism and Racism Awareness:

Anti-Asian Racism in the Time of Covid19:

:

 From Self Magazine

Anti Racism Resources from the University of Dayton

Anti Racism Guides for Self Care from Harvard

Guidelines for being strong white allies:

This is a time different from any other we have experienced. Please take good care of yourself. The world needs you, just for being you.

Julie JordanScott, the Creative Life Midwife, is a writer, a poet performer, a Creativity Coach, A Social Media Whiz and a Mother of three. One of her greatest joys include loving people into their greatness they just aren’t quite able to realize yet. 

Julie is also one of the Founders of Bridge to the New Year. Join us now in 2020 in #Refresh2020 to reflect, connect, intend and taking passionate action to create a truly remarkable rest of 2020. Click the graphic below to join the Private Facebook Group to join the conversation!

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Who are YOUR PEOPLE? Reflect to Clarify New Opportunities, too!

July 9, 2020 by jjscreativelifemidwife


With the shelter in place orders we were subjected to early in the pandemic and may yet go back to, supportive and nurturing relationships were even more significant than in the past.

When I was in theater, there were certain people I always wanted to work with: I called them “my foxhole collaborators” because I knew if I ever found myself in a foxhole I would want them in there with me.

They were often not the best of the best or the “coolest kid” or the ones with the most toys, but they were problem solvers, fun to be around and willing to experiment when others played it safe.

My “fox hole people” are also the people I am grateful to have around during not-so-great times.

Yesterday I posted on my facebook page I now have two medical procedures scheduled – a biopsy on my right lung that didn’t heal after my pneumonia/sepsis in October and the dreaded colonoscopy. I asked my friends to share funny gifs, photos and stories to take my mind off the worry.

My friends showed up and showered me with happy and ridiculous distractions.

I laughed and I smiled and I calmed down. I did some yoga nidra, took a nap and am about to make a yummilicious smoothie.

People who are in your circle make your life better. 

Who has been there for you in 2020?

The second part of #Refresh2020 is determining what relationships would you enjoy developing further as the year continues? I decided today while livestreaming I was missing local creative community. I have managed to find some new visual art friends, but my poetry and writing contacts have dwindled as have my theater contacts and friends.

Another bonus opportunity: who can you champion for the rest of 2020? Is there someone you have noticed you may come alongside and support? You don’t have to announce yourself as this person’s unsung hero, just do it – whether or not they recognize you doesn’t even matter because the more we can detach from being rewarded and acknowledged ourselves, the happier we will be overall, too.

You may find a lot of fun in doing this – and create friendships and positive relationships in the process.

Leave a comment below – I would love to hear from you!

Julie JordanScott typing a love poem on the edge of a foothill of the Sierra Nevada Mountains.
Julie JordanScott typing a love poem on the edge of a foothill of the Sierra Nevada Mountains.

Julie JordanScott, the Creative Life Midwife, is a writer, a poet performer, a Creativity Coach, A Social Media Whiz and a Mother of three. One of her greatest joys include loving people into their greatness they just aren’t quite able to realize yet. 

Julie is also one of the Founders of Bridge to the New Year. Join us now in 2020 in #Refresh2020 to reflect, connect, intend and taking passionate action to create a truly remarkable rest of 2020. Click the graphic below to join the Private Facebook Group to join the conversation!

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Does Your Goal Feel Unreachable? Be Inspired Here

July 8, 2020 by jjscreativelifemidwife

Every day, I celebrate that I am one step closer to my biggest goal in years.

Last December I was seeking something to help me feel better. I felt myself sinking into a depression after a near death experience.

“What did I used to do that made me feel good, feel better?” I asked myself. “Whatever that was, I need to do more of that,”

After months of mostly sitting in a chair in the corner of my living room, on winter solstice I set a goal. 198 days later, I am still on task and have reached my sub-goal every single day since December 21.

Here’s the story in a short, engaging video:

After watching this video and hearing my story, what do you think?

Leave a comment below – I would love to hear from you!

Julie JordanScott typing a love poem on the edge of a foothill of the Sierra Nevada Mountains.
Julie JordanScott typing a love poem on the edge of a foothill of the Sierra Nevada Mountains.

Julie JordanScott, the Creative Life Midwife, is a writer, a poet performer, a Creativity Coach, A Social Media Whiz and a Mother of three. One of her greatest joys include loving people into their greatness they just aren’t quite able to realize yet. 

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How to Use Moments of Gratitude to Improve Your Life (and the lives of others)

July 8, 2020 by jjscreativelifemidwife

Gratitude is both tender, like a tiny shoot of a plant rising up, and fierce, like that same shoot that managed to push its way up through densely packed, dark and heavy soil. 

Gratitude has been one of my faithful friends when other friends went silent, tunneled underground so I wasn’t able to reach them. Or maybe it was I who went underground and it was gratitude who lowered a ladder for me to climb up on.

Gratitude is one of the highest forms of energy available to us.

For these and many other reasons, today we began our time together in #Refresh2020 using gratitude and gratefulness as the focus of our first prompt.

It is a solid, deep and wide foundation for us to build upon as we move forward in 2020 with purpose and passion. 

When we make that determined decision to “do 2020” differently, we aim to do it better. We can learn from experiences of gratitude. We can grow from holding space for grateful moments to continue.

What we know now that we might not have known in January 2020 is this:

  • Aspects of the world are chaotic. They may get even more chaotic, they may stay the same. We can’t say they will get better or worse or anything. We just know that around us, there is a whole lot of chaos and dissension.
  • We don’t know when the pandemic will be over. We don’t know when a vaccine will be available. We don’t know when it will be safer for people like me – with health issues – to function similarly to how we did in the past. This is similar to war-time. People have survived in times of not-knowing-when for generation after generation. We can do it now, too.
  • We don’t know how many more (metaphorical) shoes will drop. For now, I am considering it to be a centipede of many colors. I can admire the colors or I can go into my hole and complain about it or go into my hole and write a lot of stories about a centipede-free world. I would rather be out among the people, helping it to be a better world whether or not there are centipedes.

Our intention is to experience the rest of the year differently.

We are adding to our expanding knowledge about how to use gratitude as a tool. When we recognize the power of simply sharing and remembering experiences of gratitude causes us to be elevated to a higher level of consciousness.

When we continue to step into this awareness by taking aligned action, our personal satisfaction and rewards will be many. We will laugh more, get more tasks done with more ease – and we will lead a happier life.

Application: Take your list of five experiences you are grateful for and use them as creativity and conversation prompts.

Creativity Prompts

Video: Take 5 minutes and make a video telling the story of that moment of gratitude.

Writing: Take 5 minutes and write the story of that grateful experience. BONUS: Hand write the story in letter form and mail it to the people you were with who became “characters” in your gratitude story. Add individual thanks for each person. Here is an example from my list.

Conversation Prompt Tips: When you see a friend or family member begin to rant about how terrible living in this time of chaos is, let them wind down and start a new conversation about what experiences they are grateful for from 2020.

Warning: some will say “Nothing! There is nothing to be grateful for in 2020.”

In those situations you may turn and walk away (without a retort is best). Take a second breath and share one of your experiences. It’s an extra bonus if your gratitude experience includes them.

Intention + Passionate Action = Purposeful rewards

When was the last time you had a conversation with someone about being grateful, especially in 2020? How might you start that conversation?

Julie JordanScott typing a love poem on the edge of a foothill of the Sierra Nevada Mountains.
Julie JordanScott typing a love poem on the edge of a foothill of the Sierra Nevada Mountains.

Julie JordanScott is The Creative Life Midwife and one of the Founders of Bridge to the New Year. Join us now in 2020 in #Refresh2020 to reflect, connect, intend and taking passionate action to create a truly remarkable rest of 2020. Click the graphic below to find out more and register to receive emails.

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Let’s Share the Good of 2020: Visiting Family #Refresh2020

July 7, 2020 by jjscreativelifemidwife

Last year I repeatedly said I was going to visit my parents in Flagstaff. I was going to go to Flagstaff alone and it was going to be wonderful. 

In April 2019, I was so burned out from care-taking and worrying and self-imposed pressure I decided I would go right after Samuel’s high school graduation. But then my volunteer activism continued to be heated and then the budget dried up and then…

There were a couple trips to Las Vegas to get Samuel to orientation and then to move him to school. His needs came first. 

And then I almost died in October. No traveling then. 

I considered somehow squishing it in post Thanksgiving but I really wasn’t feeling well enough for that much driving. And then there was the family adventure to the East Coast for Christmas which was excellent but completely stretched my post-illness abilities and budget restraints again.

In 2019, I never went to visit my parents in Flagstaff.

On our last night visiting with Katherine, my daughter, and Donald, her husband in December, we played a game which focuses on resolutions and goals, mission and vision (sounds like my ideal game, doesn’t it) where vulnerability and sharing stories are a given. 

I stated again, “This year, I am going to visit my parents. Around my birthday, I am going to visit my parents. I can’t keep putting it off.”

My birthday is at the end of January.

January came and my birthday left and in February, something that felt like a miracle occurred. Emma and I drove to Flagstaff. She originally wasn’t going to come with me, but I decided it would be good for her to visit with my parents, too, so off we went.

Two older people and their twenty-year-old granddaughter visit at the 
kitchen table, happy to see each other.

It was truly a fantastic experience. Having Emma with me helped me in numerous ways, but I especially loved hearing my Dad talk to her with his usual enthusiasm. No other grandkids there to compete, just her.

We didn’t rush around like we usually do, we simply visited and talked, talked and visited. Emma and I had a motel room and explored downtown Flagstaff with its vibe so aligned to us. We woke up one morning to snow and thoroughly enjoyed the Lowell observatory, just like we had when Emma was a little girl.

We made plans for our next visit, which we planned to make after picking up Samuel after Spring semester at UNLV but that didn’t happen because of Covid19. My mother was hospitalized in the Spring and there was no way I would put my parents at risk by visiting them as much as I would feel reassured if I saw them.

I am so grateful I finally took the road trip, that I took it with Emma, and that no matter what I will hold this memory close to my heart. For that, I am so grateful.

What is one (or more) experiences you are grateful for so far in 2020? Bonus: after you create a list, write about at least one of them for five minutes or more, like I wrote about one of my experiences of gratitude in this blog post.

Our #Refresh2020 prompt on July 7  requests we make a list of 5 experiences in 2020

This blog post was inspired by a prompt from #Refresh2020 – a 3 week initiative during July 2020 to intentionally explore our experiences of 2020 so that we may continue the year with purpose and passion, even and especially if chaotic circumstances continue to erupt around us.

We will be holding space for the unknowing and aiming for our best, even if we don’t know what that best is. If that compels you, consider spending the next month or so with us. Click the image below to connect or ask me any questions yo

Refresh 2020 is a Three Week Pop Up experience to address experiencing 2020 from a fresh perspective. Flowers are the frame, showing optimism amidst the primary unpleasantness that has been indicative of much of 2020.

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