A funny thing happened on the way to working for someone else.
I have been a creative entrepreneur for more than twenty years. Even when I “went back to work” it was as a freelancer or gig worker and that’s how I liked it. It is how I wanted it.
I didn’t want to have an employer. Thank you, no.
When I got my regular, go to work for a set number of days and hours this year it was actually by accident. I wanted to be a substitute teacher but then was offered a five-hours-a-day, five days a week job which I accepted as an experiment.
I became much more organized as I began finishing long awaited projects and when school started this year and I was also babysitting my precious grandbaby 2 and a half days a week, I realized I would be most effective in all of my endeavors if I was more organized with my habits and practices. I needed to put what I learned from “Atomic Habits” by James Clear and “The Power of Habit” by Charles Duhigg into practice.
I do not have extensive, do-or-die practices and habits, it is more like I created habits and spiritual practices that help me feel more loved and nurtured by myself. I need to have extreme focus, especially when I write. Time is limited.
I now prepare my breakfasts one day for eight days and prepare two different protein sources which last me for the entire week of lunches and dinners.
I put together my outfits so when I wake up I can slide into my clothes as soon as I am out of bed so I don’t have to even think about what I am wearing.
I have a set writing schedule and use focus mate to write with many people all over the world every single morning (at my desk at 5 am 5 days a week and sometimes on Sunday, too.)
I didn’t realize how much I love caring for myself in these ways. It feels so caring, so loving, so much like a caring parent or guardian who says “You are valued, I want you to feel calm and cared for and without a worry in the hectic hubbub of life.”
I am continuing to build my habits so that I may continue to hone these profound feelings of practical means and passageways for belonging to find her way back to me and me to her.
Never, ever did I expect to see this marvelous miracle approaching me.
There are now 73 more days of 2023. What small new habit (or renewed habit) would you like to try until the end of this year?
Julie JordanScott is a Creative Life Coach, an award-winning storyteller, actor and poet whose photos and mixed media art graces the walls of collectors across the United States. Her writing has appeared on the New York Times Best Sellers List, the Amazon best sellers list and on American Greetings Holiday cards (and other greeting cards). She currently lives in a manse in Sussex, NJ, where she has recently finished her most recent book project, hugging trees daily and enjoys having random inspirational conversations with strangers.
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Tamara says
Back (before I became a Mom and had a so-called high powered job) I refused to pick my outfit the night before. “Who knows what I am going to feel like? I can’t decide until I come out of the shower.” I claimed, and I kept wasting time standing in front of the closet and finding I had a lot of clothes but nothing to wear.
When I went back to work with an 16-month old baby in tow, I didn’t have that luxury any more. Time was of the essence. I laid out our stuff in the evening. One less thing to worry about. I’ve been doing it ever since. Simple but helpful.
As for your question. (Geez, only 73 days left???) I need to incorporate the “sleep well tea” I ordered into my good night routine. I can’t seem to start. I am not a tee drinker except I’m sick.
jjscreativelifemidwife says
How interesting, Tamara, because last night I poured myself a cup of tea before I went upstairs to prep for sleep. I often take melatonin but have been out for a week. My sleep was restless and I did wake up happy and ready to face my day. 🙂
PS – 72 days left now! 🙂
Nadya King says
I’m down to working 2 days a week after 40 years as a massage therapist, most of that self- employed. Linen laundry, and being sure to have coconut oil on hand are two biggies for being prepared for work, and I make Granola and coconut milk yogurt, plus rice/quinoa n lentils on a regular basis, and shop the farmers market.
Time for Creativity and gardening fill my soul, Qigong and Breema are 2 favorite movement forms
jjscreativelifemidwife says
Oh, Nadya! Just reading your process fills me with delight. Congrats on 40 years of work as a massage therapist. I have been rubbing moisturizers into my hands at the end of the day. It is interesting to see how this self nurturing helps my mindset as well.
Joanna Hennon says
I’m trying to create a writing commit through this blogging challenge… There are others I’m working on too. I went back to bullet journalling to help me keep track, I find that tracking things makes me more intentional about how I use my time, and allows me to see where attention is needed next.
jjscreativelifemidwife says
This is such an awesome strategy, Joanna. I love the tangibility of bullet journaling and habit tracking!
Thank you for your comment – I appreciate you.