Yesterday I did the best thing I have done since the middle of March.
I adopted a plant. A spider plant. An incredible Spider Plant I’ve named Henrietta.
I am calling this a matter of “Delayed Child Moves Away Syndrome Affect.” My son, Samuel, moved away to college last August. Like any parent, I was nervous and numb. I waved goodbye when I left him at his dorm and was thrilled at Thanksgiving to spend a few days with him. The December and January holidays arrived and it was almost like old times.
With the arrival of Corona Virus, he petitioned to stay on campus. I congratulated his independence and my heart broke a little.
He is signed up for two sessions of Summer School, so he will be home for about three weeks this Summer.
I act like I don’t miss him, but when I sat in my car waiting for the curbside delivery of my plant I knew something oddly exhilarating was happening.
I was adopting a plant. I was adopting a Spider plant! I had wanted a Spider Plant for a long time but the timing didn’t ever seem to feel right. This morning, I took the leap. I sent a message to my friend Amanda who owns House of Flowers and I asked her, in a typed whisper, “Do you have any spider plants in stock?”
She did! I would soon be the mother of a spider plant! I would have something new to nurture. It isn’t the same as having my son here at home and given our current circumstances, Henrie brings a healthy dose of optimism for the future and a sense of purpose beyond myself and my work.
When I saw Diana – Amanda’s Mom and business partner at House of Flowers – walk out the door to the shop with Henrietta in her hands it was as if the Earth stopped moving. “She is so beautiful!” I heard myself saying. I took her and cradled her in my car. When I got home I almost couldn’t let her out of my sight.
I had a zoom meeting to attend and she was right across from me on my desk. I crooned and crowed and couldn’t stop talking about her. “I adopted a spider plant today!” I told anyone who approached me on social media.
Little Henrie is now across the room from me on the mantel. I am thinking of all the plant accessories I may buy her, maybe a fancy new pot in a while. She is a brilliant plant, a beautiful plant, a transformative plant.
Why did I wait so long?
This morning I placed her in a basket and she is sitting, once again, directly across from where I write. All is right with the world.
Julie JordanScott is the Creative Life Midwife. She inspires people to live their life as an artform and take action towards their best results. During the 2020 Pandemic she is also leading daily Virtual Coffee Dates, Facilitating Intentional Conversati
Lillian says
It never occurred to me that plants can become members of the family the way pets can. What a fresh perspective. May you and Henrie be happy together.
jjscreativelifemidwife says
I not only let go of my child this year (the others are grown, too) but I no longer have any pets. I have actually adjusted quite easily to this and have found plants to be fantastically loving and responsive and easy to care for as well. Thanks for your comment! Hope your day goes well!
Cindy Rae Fancher says
We all need to love something actively. I believe this with every part of me, there is a piece of us missing when there is nothing we can show love to. Maybe it sounds silly, but I feel that is how God made us. We are love, he is love, when we can’t show it, we wither. Happy you have Henri, enjoy, spider plants are fun, gotta love all of those babies!
Nancy Smith says
Julie,
I love plants…at one time, I had them all over my house. Since I’ve had this last bout of asthma, doctors have said I no could have flowers of any kind in my air space. Guess what, as sad as that made me – -I was elated because, for me, that means MORE plants!!!
I told my husband last week I wanted a Spider plant…your post inspired me. I pray that your son’s absence will be short-lived and you and he can see each other soon.
jjscreativelifemidwife says
He loves being independent. I am proud of him… and yes, I hope to see him in mid may through the end of June.
Dr.Amrita says
I love the idea if naming plants.I have around 60 houseplants but have never named them.Its a interesting idea.
jjscreativelifemidwife says
This is my first named plant, also. It felt like an imperative. 🙂