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One Step at a Time: Open the Door, Find the Light

March 12, 2020 by jjscreativelifemidwife 3 Comments

This morning I attempted to write an inspirational essay prompted by Emily Dickinson’s quote about the soul standing ajar, ready to welcome the ecstatic experience.

Normally this fits my passionate process quite well and I am able to flip a less constructive mood quickly. This morning, my sour mood wasn’t going anywhere.  I sat in my writing corner digesting the previous night’s emotional turmoil which had turned into an emotional hangover larger than my usual.

I am a tender soul. A tender human. I am sensitive and I seem to fall down and skin my spirit like as a child I skinned my knees when I tripped and fell and skid across the playground,

Emily Dickinson's ecstatic soul ajar lesson isn't always immediately accurate

I vacillate between “can’t wait for the next thing I’m doing it is the be-all-end-all and I am being magnetized toward it…” and then something happens and my face is close to the pavement, again.

Last night when my emotional skid happened it was after my son sent me a scathing text: a long one, based on one of his ongoing gripes with me about something that happened years ago.

He doesn’t tap dance around my history of fear in regards to his life. He goes for the jugular, knowing or unknowing the guilt I haven’t effectively let go yet. My response to his anger is to stand there and take it.

When he was a little boy and couldn’t put his frustration into words, I would stand still when he pummeled me with his fists. I have never forbid him to channel his anger, though now I think a boundary is overdue.

I responded to his text with something like this, like I have said and texted many times in the past:

“I did what I thought was best. I let fear guide me too many times. You are right, I could have chosen differently.”

I am wondering how much he wants to hear about his autism diagnosis and why what happened early in his educational experience caused a wall to be built between me and many educrats, teachers and administrators.

His anger at me isn’t about the totality of me, it is about how I interfered in helping him pursue his vision and continues to impact him now.

What I noted today that I hadn’t ever before is how much this guilt I continue to harbor also builds walls against my creative process. It burrows into my softness, my tender heart, my sensitive soul and I end up pushing away the keyboard.

Yes, I was almost always afraid for my son. He went through hell when he was little and then when he was not so little and even in the months before he graduated we had yet another crisis to navigate.

Sylvia Plath wrote, “It is the hate, the paralyzing fear, that gets in my way and stops me.” In Plath’s case it stopped her from writing the short literary fiction she longed to write at the time and for me, my work flow dries up. I spent much of the day in silence, not even reading or jotting notes.

I went to Toastmasters and gave a quality evaluation and then was worthless until about ninety-minutes ago.

Writing Prompt related to Emily Dickinson's quote that invites personal reflection before ecstacy.

Like my son, after taking time to process – I felt better.

Sometimes when the soul is ajar, it doesn’t go fast forward into ecstasy, as Emily Dickinson suggests. I like to think she knew her fair share of waiting for ecstasy with a side of bits of grief and struggle and “not quite ready” yet moments.

Emily Dickinson quote image with stars and a circle, "The soul should always stand ajar, ready to welcome the ecstatic experience."
Portrait of Julie Jordan Scott, Creativity Coach and Creative Life Midwife

This post is a part of the Women’s History Month Writing Quotes & Prompts series from Julie JordanScott, the Creative Life Midwife, and her Word-Love Writing Community you may join for free on Facebook. During March, there will be daily discussions on the quotes and prompts we present here, too. Join the conversation and improve your writing at the same time!

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Filed Under: Creative Life Coaching, Creative Process, Writing Challenges & Play, Writing Prompt Tagged With: Autism Mom, Emily Dickinson, Emily Dickinson quote, Special Needs Mom

Comments

  1. Deborah Iliff says

    March 12, 2020 at 7:43 pm

    I’ll be leaving this on my screen for a while. There is something very helpful here, but my lack of focus is holding on tight. I will keep this on my screen until I can look at each piece. I’ve been missing our times online together. Times must change, but we can still miss what we had. (Talk about being soft and mushy!) <3

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  2. Nancy Smith says

    March 13, 2020 at 7:05 am

    Julie,

    wow – – such insight to his mind all from a quote! It’s interesting how we try to interpret an action, a tone, a word or an outburst from others and really, most times – don’t even understand the reasons why.

    Thank you for sharing this…it made me think of different scenarios in my own family that at times, felt they were directed towards me intentionally. Only to realize, it was their way of expressing their inward thoughts, feelings, and stuff.

    Recently with the birth of my third grandson by way of my baby girl – – she made a comment – ‘mom, it frustrates me because I don’t know what he is feeling and the only way he can express is by crying’. This statement from her was very powerful because finally – I thought, now she gets it…all those times she would do things towards me by way of lashing out, saying hurtful words, or through other types of actions…she went on to say, “I don’t want him to hurt – to feel pained or be in discomfort – but how will I know”?
    Welcome to motherhood my child, welcome to motherhood…one day, you will understand. :=)

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  3. Martha says

    March 14, 2020 at 11:43 am

    Thank you for sharing, this sounds like something I could have written after a note from my daughter.

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