“Turmoil stimulates” Thomas Leonard
It is 5:40 am on a Thursday morning and I am giving myself the gift of “talking” about tolerations. Just here and now, you and me, let’s talk about what we’ve been putting up with in our lives that hasn’t served any purpose except being a niggling annoyance, like when my kitchen cabinets were almost finished for… more than a year.
I got so used to it I didn’t notice until I heard one of the other mothers criticizing me for it.
“Unfinished cupboards? Oh my gawsh, I couldn’t stand living like that. I don’t know how she does” the mom said to someone else about me. Note to self: unfinished cupboards reinforce I am not worthy of friends who finish projects, I am propelled only to sit in the seats beside other friendless people no one else wants to spend time with… and don’t forget it you non-finisher.
This, the role relegated to the one who was known for perpetually getting her enormous college research papers turned in before the deadline?
What happened to me? Where did that early finisher go?
Life, honey, life happened to me.
I can stack volumes of circumstances up next to the best of them but the thing is, life and the need to declutter and finish and keep putting one foot in front of the other continues.
My tolerations list is a direct result of the self-punishment and neglect I have unconsciously levied upon myself.
The positive part is: I am the one in control of this part of my life.
I can turn the soft rumbles of dissatisfaction into a productive sort of turmoil, as Thomas Leonard – the same man who coined the term “tolerations” – meant when he said “Turmoil stimulates.”
A clutter-free home, for example, is not a result of pain as I curiously wondered yesterday –it is a result of constructive voice. Imagine, I will be able to find things without struggle.
It is like granting myself a ticket across the finish line over and over again.
This morning before I started writing I plopped my new lazy susan on my art table and started sorting. Unlike in the past, today I will continue sorting and clearing and gathering my tools in a way that will continue to serve me and my process.
Paula made up a tolerations celebration space in the Bridge to the New Year group. Clearing counters and tables is at the top of the list and I am going to celebrate each counter & each table top I clear AND each time I keep them consistently clear, I will celebrate again.
One last thing: today I was awake early because I wanted to honor my devotion to writing by participating in the (I believe it started in twitter) #5amwritersclub twice a week. Today I may say I completed the #5amwritersclub for the first week ever. Here’s to doing so for the next consecutive 51 weeks.
What are you tolerating? You don’t have to share your list or process with anyone, but if you would benefit from having a supportive group around you to get the work done, consider closing out your year with the peoplein “Bridge to the New Year” – this link will take you to the variety of spaces you may participate.
I am aghast at the things people say and the judgements they make about others. How dare they! I have a friend whose home is always a loving mess. She has two children and an introvert husband who works from home. She is a veterinarian. I never look at her house and see what she sees. I see love. I see a home in the truest sense. She and I made a pact to never apologize to one another for our messes. I love this prompt. It made me think and helped me sort some of my issues out. Together we will all get there. 🙂
Yes, we will. It is an ongoing activity, too. Not a one time fix and we’re done. Ongoing journey with love